I have a sister, Christy, that I hadn't seen in 30 years until 2 weeks ago. Wow!! I guess I should explain the long story so you will understand why I believe it should be a Lifetime movie. Here is the story that has been told to my by my Dad, grandmother and my mother.
My entire life I've known that I had another sister and that she was taken away from us by her mother. My Dad had full custody of my sister Christy because her mother was abusing her and was abusing drugs. Dad was in the Airforce and was away preparing for Vietnam and my grandmother was taking care of my sister. My dad's ex-wife had visitation on the weekends and could take Christy and then bring her back when the weekend was over. One day she came and got her and never brought her back. My grandmother notified my dad of what happened and he had to get a discharge from the Airforce to go and find his daughter. He hired a private investigator and they searched and searched. They were never able to find her and he was heartbroken.
The years passed and he didn't have the money to keep up the search.
One day his ex-wife sent a picture of Christy to my dad and nothing else. She was not even 2 when she took her and in this picture she was around 5 years old. My dad again tried to find her but again could not. 10 years pass and she finally contacts my dad and asks for child support. WHAT??!!! EXCUSE ME!!! Yes that is what she did, some nerves I say. My dad agrees to this only if he can see her and have her come and stay with us for the summer. ( I should say that by this time my dad had married my mom and I was around a year old). She agrees to let her come. By this time they live in Oregon and we live in TN so she would have to fly. She got to come and visit us when she was 11 and when she was 13. That was the last time I saw her until a few weeks ago. A lot of other stuff happened and her mom ended up kicking her out of the house at 15 so we never got to see her again. Then time passed she got married and started a family and life went on for all of us. I would write her here and there and try to keep up but I never could keep in contact for long. I blame myself for not trying to stay in contact and that is something that I really regret.
One day I'm on Facebook and I received an email from my sister. I was so shocked and excited all at the same time. I couldn't write her back a response fast enough. She was so nervous about contacting me and wondered if I remembered her. Of course I remembered her and I was so excited. We started chatting back and forth on FB and then I started calling her. I could tell that she was very bitter toward my dad and I wanted to tell her his side of the story but I would leave that for him to tell.
I wanted to meet her and get her on a plane to TN as fast as possible. I talked to my mom and dad about it and they said that it would be a wonderful surprise for my grandmother's 90th birthday party in March. So we all decided that Christy would be on a plane in March for Nanny's surprise birthday party. I was so excited!!!!
The week she was here was definitely not long enough but it was an amazing week. She got to talk everything out with my dad and wounds have begun to heal. :) I wish she didn't live so far away and that I could spend more time with my sister. I often wonder how different things would have been growing up with a sister instead of 3 brothers.
The next few posts, and I say few because there are a lot of pictures, will be of pictures of our week together.
My entire life I've known that I had another sister and that she was taken away from us by her mother. My Dad had full custody of my sister Christy because her mother was abusing her and was abusing drugs. Dad was in the Airforce and was away preparing for Vietnam and my grandmother was taking care of my sister. My dad's ex-wife had visitation on the weekends and could take Christy and then bring her back when the weekend was over. One day she came and got her and never brought her back. My grandmother notified my dad of what happened and he had to get a discharge from the Airforce to go and find his daughter. He hired a private investigator and they searched and searched. They were never able to find her and he was heartbroken.
The years passed and he didn't have the money to keep up the search.
One day his ex-wife sent a picture of Christy to my dad and nothing else. She was not even 2 when she took her and in this picture she was around 5 years old. My dad again tried to find her but again could not. 10 years pass and she finally contacts my dad and asks for child support. WHAT??!!! EXCUSE ME!!! Yes that is what she did, some nerves I say. My dad agrees to this only if he can see her and have her come and stay with us for the summer. ( I should say that by this time my dad had married my mom and I was around a year old). She agrees to let her come. By this time they live in Oregon and we live in TN so she would have to fly. She got to come and visit us when she was 11 and when she was 13. That was the last time I saw her until a few weeks ago. A lot of other stuff happened and her mom ended up kicking her out of the house at 15 so we never got to see her again. Then time passed she got married and started a family and life went on for all of us. I would write her here and there and try to keep up but I never could keep in contact for long. I blame myself for not trying to stay in contact and that is something that I really regret.
One day I'm on Facebook and I received an email from my sister. I was so shocked and excited all at the same time. I couldn't write her back a response fast enough. She was so nervous about contacting me and wondered if I remembered her. Of course I remembered her and I was so excited. We started chatting back and forth on FB and then I started calling her. I could tell that she was very bitter toward my dad and I wanted to tell her his side of the story but I would leave that for him to tell.
I wanted to meet her and get her on a plane to TN as fast as possible. I talked to my mom and dad about it and they said that it would be a wonderful surprise for my grandmother's 90th birthday party in March. So we all decided that Christy would be on a plane in March for Nanny's surprise birthday party. I was so excited!!!!
The week she was here was definitely not long enough but it was an amazing week. She got to talk everything out with my dad and wounds have begun to heal. :) I wish she didn't live so far away and that I could spend more time with my sister. I often wonder how different things would have been growing up with a sister instead of 3 brothers.
The next few posts, and I say few because there are a lot of pictures, will be of pictures of our week together.
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